Lifecycle-B’nai Mitzvah

What does it mean to become Bar or Bat Mitzvah?
Literally Bar Mitzvah means “son of the commandment” and Bat Mitzvah means “daughter of the commandment.” Jewish law does not require children to follow the commandments, though they are encouraged to do so. At the age of thirteen children become obligated to fulfill the mitzvot. Bar and Bat Mitzvah is not an event, rather it is a change in status. While we may perceive thirteen to be in the midst of childhood, Jewish law allows B’nai Mitzvah (plural of Bar or Bat Mitzvah) to count in a minyan (the minimum number of people necessary for some religious practices), to form binding contracts, and to serve as a witness in religious courts.

The celebration of a B'nai Mitzvah is fairly recent in Jewish history, dating back only five centuries. To show a community that a young person was now legally an adult, they would be called to recite the blessing before and after the reading of the Torah, a mitzvah and privilege reserved for adults.

Today it is the educational aspect, rather than reaching the age of majority, which is stressed. At Congregation Kol Ami, B’nai Mitzvah demonstrate their ability to lead services, read Torah, participate in Tikkun Olam and social action projects, as well as teach the community.

B’nai Mitzvah is not the endpoint of Jewish Education. We are all obligated to continue the study of Torah and the fulfillment of righteous deeds throughout our lives. B’nai Mitzvah celebrate their change in status and honor their new responsibility not only on the day of their ceremony but through ongoing commitments to our tradition and community.

Celebrations
There are a variety of opportunities and options for celebration surrounding B’nai Mitzvah including a Shabbat dinner, luncheons, and evening celebrations.

Often the family of the B’nai Mitzvah hosts the post-services community Kiddush in additional to private celebrations.

Kol Ami spaces are available to rent for your celebration. Depending on the time of the event, there are some Shabbat restrictions including the type of music that can be played, photography limitations, and other activity guidelines.

Order a Simcha Leaf
To order a simcha leaf to commemorate your child becoming a b'nai mitzvah, please fill out the form below: